I heard this quote that resonated with me, it stated “If you had a
friend who talked to you or about you the way you talk to yourself, would you
still be their friend”?
It’s been years since I heard this quote, but somehow I still remember it.
It makes me think, why are we so critical of ourselves? Why do we pick any
little thing about ourselves and use it to tear our self-down?
I know people in this world can be cruel to each other. Being a girl, I
faced people’s cruel worlds all my life. People commented on how thin my hair
is, how big my teeth are (I was told I had horse teeth), and how small my lips
are. I was also made fun of for my weight, I was called twiggy, stick,
anorexic, and flat ass/chest. Sadly, those are just the things people made fun
of me physically, but I also faced it for my personality. I am too sassy,
stubborn, outspoken, and annoying. I think you get the point. It poisoned
myself esteem and the way I viewed myself. I felt ugly because of what people
said… It made me feel disgusted with myself and if I wasn’t enough. I avoided
every mirror I passed for such a long time. I’ve had enough though, this isn’t
the life I want. I want to love and enjoy myself. Watch as I bloom overtime. I
still struggle with talking about myself in a positive way. Statements like
“I’m dumb, and idiot” come out of my mouth. I now put myself down
until tears run down my cheeks. But for what…? To please other people? I
needed to evaluate who was more important, other people’s opinions, or how I
view and speak about myself. The answer is simple; I need to choose self-love.
Who cares what other people say, self-love needs to come first!!!
There are quotes everywhere we turn reminding us that we are beautiful and
loved exactly for who we are. I know, self-esteem isn’t an easy thing to have,
it takes work. It’s okay to be gentle with ourselves, we don’t need to be the
same way of everyone else. Sometimes we base the way we view ourselves on how
people treat us or even worse on how society portrays beauty. But beauty and
being perfect are such vague terms, because those two words have a different
meaning to each person in this world. What we consider as our flaw (whether it
is being too skinny, overweight, dark, white, having fat thumbs, freckles)
someone else might love about us. So why can’t we love our self? We don’t need
to change who we are or how we look, we can be our definition of beautiful and
I think it’s hard to remember to be kind and love ourselves the same way we
would want our friends/family/ or spouse to love us. But the truth, is we
wouldn’t tolerate someone talking to us or about us in a negative way. They
wouldn’t be a friend or remain in our life. So, shouldn’t that tell us
something? If we wouldn’t tolerate that talk from anyone in our life, then we
shouldn’t tolerate it from our self either.
I finally realize,
I am beautiful.
I am enough.
I am worth loving and I am amazing just the way I am.
Because the truth is we are all those things and so much more.